To: all the single ladies

To: all the single ladies

“Woah oh oh, oh oh oh oh oh, Oh oh oh oh

All the single ladies, all the single ladies

Now put your hands up”

Sorry…I’ll stop before you start twerking like Beyonce, right there at your computer!  Or go ahead but come back & join us soon!;)

Let me just start over here.  Since moving home, I’ve had the opportunity to spend more time with my niece, Abbie who will be 13 this week.  We’ve had several conversations about when/if she should text a boy or how to hand an invitation to a guy without feeling weird.  This got me thinking…what would I go back & tell my 13 year old self?

Rewind with me (all the way) back to 1995…I already knew my husband but if you told me then that I would marry him, I probably would’ve laughed.  Don’t get me wrong, he was a cutie & definitely a fan favorite with the girls but I didn’t think he was my “type”.  Here’s the bottom line…I wish I knew then what I know now about what’s truly important.  I ended up with someone who is exactly what I never knew I needed…


Someone who takes God at His word when He says “husbands love your wives, just as I have loved the church.”

Someone who listens…really listens.

Someone who has seen my ugliest moments & loves me anyway!

Someone who scoops me up and carries me when I have no more strength to fight.

Someone with the patience of Job! (that was a special gift, just for me…Lord knew I’d need it!)

Someone who is up before the sun everyday, surrendering to Jesus.

Someone who sees in me what I have a hard time seeing in myself.

Someone who is adventurous & willing to take risks.

Someone who looked at me in the throes of labor & said “you are more beautiful in this moment than you’ve ever been”

Someone who isn’t afraid to tell me the truth.

Someone who jumps out of bed at the first sound of a baby cry & lets me sleep…can I get an amen, all you weary Mamas?

Someone who leads our family with integrity.

Someone who makes me laugh when I want to cry.

I could keep going but you get the point.  If I had described to you what I wanted in a husband when I was 13, I dare say it would not look like the list above.  The things that I find attractive now would probably make that girl chuckle or roll her eyes.  But I’m so thankful that God knew exactly what I needed.  His ways are always better than ours, aren’t they?  I don’t deserve to be loved unconditionally by my Heavenly Father and I don’t deserve the gift of my husband but I’m grateful…so grateful.

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